Decorating for couples is always a complex dance of giving one what s/he wants without alienating the other. Invariably, you often find yourself caught between two distinctly different sets of likes and wants.
As generalities go, ‘male’ energy in the home prefers function over form, neutral bests bold, and old (think broken in) wins over new. Female energy, on the other hand, can be quite the opposite. Form is equal to if not more important than function. Trendy and colorful are more appealing. New and neat wins out over worn and tired. Again… generalities being what they are, it’s rare to find two people in any household (especially of the opposite sex) who can agree on all things decorating.
This couldn’t have been more true of a project we just finished in Cary. First, let me say that one couldn’t ask for better clients. Even-tempered and polite, both were open to the process. While the wife of this empty-nester duo was more than ready for the refresh, the husband agreed somewhat begrudgingly. But, with a little reassurance that ‘his’ likes and wants would also be respected, he too embraced the changes.
Once underway, we were almost given carte blanche in our choices. Furniture additions were suggested and approved of course. But the rest was up to us to pull it all together. Working within the existing color palette of warmer tans and creams and incorporating both the older and newer furniture, our goal was simple…. update everything and tie it together!
Fortunately, with two distinct ‘styles’ in play, the primary seating areas in the home were on opposite ends of the house. The living room was already more a statement to her likes while the family room was definitely more to his. And while far apart in style, the separation made it easier to give both what they wanted while staying true to our goals.
In the living room, a new coffee table, window treatments, rug, lamps, artwork and accessories helped refresh and finish ‘her’ space reflecting her likes & sensibilities.
In the family room, a new leather ottoman, end tables, window treatments, rug, lamps, artwork and accessories brought ‘his’ old west inspired motif into the new millennium!
The dining room and kitchen served as a nice bridge between the two living areas, reflecting elements from both spaces to tie it all together.
Sharing her experience on Houzz.com, our client wrote: “When we saw our outdated home brought to something that could be featured in a magazine, it brought tears to my eyes. We could not be more thrilled with the outcome.”
Finding the happy medium between ‘male’ and ‘female’ is always a challenge for any decorator or designer. In reality, as in life however, the perfect decor is a marriage of the two.
Happy His & Hers Decorating from Decor Designs. 815-245-2433